1. The affecting hospitality of the Iranian people, their honorable nature and (outside Tehran, at least) their friendliness
2. It’s an awe-inspiring experience to stand in the evening on the main square of Isfahan (the world’s second largest square) and look, feel and listen to an atmosphere incomparable to anywhere else in earth
3. Walking across a big public square in Shiraz amid picnicking families, and noticing all the friendly smiles
4. Visiting the grave of the great poet of Shiraz, Hafez, and seeing the reverence he is held in, even by relatively uneducated Iranians
5. Making a lifelong friend of our driver and travelling companion, Reza, a young man who embodies human goodness, and through whom we were able to experience the indescribably polite, civilized nature of the Iranian people
6. As guests in Yazd, sitting on the living room carpet and eating, in the home of a family
7. Feeling entirely safe the whole time we were there, with less fear of being the victims of crime than we would have had in Brussels, Barcelona or Rio.
8. In Shiraz, my daughter ate the most delicious rice she’d ever tasted, and even a rice-hater like me could take great pleasure in the moment
9. Visiting the Armenian quarter of Isfahan, and seeing the many ways that people enjoy themselves, in spite of Islamic moral restrictions
10. The pleasure in having gone to Iran, despite much advice against it, and fallen in love with it
1. Spending hours in traffic jams in Tehran, wasting precious time
2. The fear of getting run over, at least at the beginning, every time we had to cross the road in Tehran
3. Sensing the desire of young people to let their hair down and enjoy themselves like young people elsewhere in the world – there are almost no party venues, and few places for young people to even sit down and chat
4. The lack of variety among the restaurants on offer
5. Having to admit to myself that the ruins of Persepolis didn’t wow me
6. Despite the vast number of men who smoke, when my daughter lit a cigarette (outside of our hotel) she got a lot of ugly looks from passing men, which made her feel uncomfortable
7. The fact that my daughter always had to wear a headscarf, which she didn’t like but stoically accepted, while a group of female Japanese tourists were permitted to forego it
8. The presentation of tourist attractions is sometimes clumsily done
9. The appalling air pollution in Tehran
10. Our failure to find anyone with good enough English who was willing to discuss the Iranian situation in private, and offer some defense of the rigorous Islamic control of everyday life, though we did manage a few quick chats on such matters